By Chris Simmons
1. A person cannot look you directly in the eye while lying.
False. In fact, many experienced liars intentionally maintain eye contact as a means of appearing honest.
2. A single gesture can prove whether someone is lying.
False. The human body reacts adversely when we lie, broadcasting its discomfort with a cluster of signs (e.g., tapping fingers, bouncing leg, fidgeting). No single gesture is sufficiently accurate by itself to be used as a sign of deception.
3. If you think someone is being dishonest, watch their face for involuntary signs of deception (known as “tells”).
False. Almost all the lies one will ever tell originate from the face. It is the most experienced part of our body when it comes to deception. Instead, watch the extremities, as this is often where the behavioral clusters will first be noticed.
4. Lying is a cooperative act.
True. A lie has no power of its own. It only becomes influential when accepted as the truth by the victim.
5. Sex is one of the few acts that can naturally occur using just nonverbal communication.
True. Nonverbal communication can be accurately described as the language of love. It consists of body language and utterances (i.e., voice pitch, volume, speed, as well as “nonwords” like sighs). The nonverbals comprise at least 60% of any spoken message. The more emotionally invested the speaker is in his/her message, the higher the percentage of the nonverbal component.